officially a dad of 3 😳

Assalāmu ‘alaykum 👋

Welcome to the Freshly Grounded newsletter, I’m back in your inbox… and now officially outnumbered with three boys!

It's been a whirlwind, but I’ve missed our Freshly Grounded chats. Let’s get back to it.

Get ready to talk about life, resilience, and maybe a little about survival.

Here’s what we got today:

• 3 lessons as a dad of 3 boys

• Have i found the next big side hustle?

• How many breads can a lightning bolt toast?

🥸 3 Boys, 3 Lessons: Life as a Dad of Three

I thought I’d share the three lessons that have hit home since becoming a father of three. Either that or im using you as a therapy session. either way: enjoy.

1. Embrace the Mess

Everywhere I go, people ask me, “How does it feel with three boys?” And honestly? My answer is always the same: i feel immensely satisfied.

yes, life with three boys is messy. It’s loud, chaotic, and filled with endless “oops” moments. I can’t keep a white shirt clean to save my life.

But you know what? In that mess, I’ve found a sense of deep contentment. Life feels full right now.

In Islam, contentment is something we’re encouraged to strive for.

It’s not just about putting up with the mess but truly embracing it and finding satisfaction in what Allah has decreed.

There’s a beauty in the imperfection of it all.

Satisfaction doesn’t come from pristine perfection; it comes from accepting and appreciating what Allah has written for us (and HE is Perfect!).

2. The Role of Masculinity: Teaching Strength and Integrity

Having three boys has made me even more aware of my role in teaching them about what it means to be men in a world where that concept is, let’s say, under siege.

In a time when masculinity is often misrepresented or downplayed, I feel a heightened responsibility to instill the right qualities in my boys. I want them to know that being a man is about strength balanced with compassion, resilience tempered with humility.

There’s a saying, “A real man is gentle enough to hold a child and strong enough to protect him.” That’s the balance I’m aiming to teach (and become).

I want my boys to grow up understanding that true masculinity is about service, strength, and standing firm in your beliefs. It’s about being the type of man who can lead a family, contribute to society, and uphold the values that matter, regardless of the winds of change around him.

3. Financial Motivation: Stepping Up as the Provider

Let’s get real for a moment.

Being the dad of three has put a new fire under me when it comes to financial motivation.

In society, talking about money is almost taboo – it’s seen as sleezy or materialistic. But let’s be clear, money isn’t the goal; it’s the means.

Allah is ar-Razzaq, the Ultimate Provider, but we’re also given the responsibility to work and provide for our families. And when you’re the father of three, let’s just say that responsibility feels a bit heavier. In the best way.

There’s a certain “provider” mindset that kicks in.

It’s that sense of wanting to give them the life they deserve, to step up and take on the role of leader with strength and determination.

It’s like joining the ranks of the old-school dons – you take care of your own, you make sure they’re safe and supported. There’s honour in that.

So yes, it means doubling down on the hustle, keeping the financial game strong, and doing it all with dignity. Because when I look at those three faces, I want them to know that their dad stepped up, and that’s a lesson in itself.

So, those are my three big takeaways from life as a dad of three. Embrace the mess, define masculinity, and provide with purpose.

May Allāh bless all the fathers out there stepping up, staying grounded, and keeping it real.

☕️ The Black Coffee Briefings:

Bullet-point rundown of news, updates, and caffeinated contemplations:

• I may have found the next big money making side hustle (automation agencies), and i wrote an article about it for you to read here.

• My personal branding course is still on launch price but the cost will rise soon, lock in now and elevate your brand

• Random fact: A bolt of lightning contains enough energy to toast 100,000 slices of bread.

That’s the last word for today. Remember: Embrace the mess, lead with strength, and never shy from the grind.

If you want to start your own regular email newsletter, we recommend using Beehiiv (founded by ex-morning brew) and if you use this link, they'll give Freshly Grounded some kickback without any extra charge to you!