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How i got my kids to start enjoying Qur’an
🔑 How i got my kids to start enjoying Qur’an
Alright, here’s the sitch.
I knew I wanted my kids to start their Qur’an journey early. So when they hit around 4, I thought: cool, let’s do this properly.
We start memorising together.
Sounds wholesome, right?
Wrong.
Every time it was “Qur’an time” it was:
groaning
moaning
dramatic sighs
Fast forward to now… and I can’t get them to stop reciting it.
So if you’re in that early stage thinking “why do my kids hate this?”, here are the three things that actually worked for me:
1. Get over the hump (most parents fold here)
Kids don’t like new structure. Shocker.
So they complain. They resist. They test you.
And most parents, good-hearted parents, see that discomfort and think:
“Maybe they’re not ready…”
Nah.
They’re just going through the hump.
You know better than them. Your job isn’t to negotiate with a 4-year-old’s emotions, it’s to lead.
Stay consistent long enough and something magical happens: they stop fighting it. It becomes routine.
2. Make Qur’an a group activity (kids fear missing out more than discipline)
Solo Qur’an sessions are a tough sell.
Group Qur’an sessions are a different story.
Try doing it with siblings, cousins, other kids.
When children see other kids reciting, it flips a switch in their brain.
Now it’s not “dad vs me.”
It’s:
“Wait… why is everyone else doing this?”
A little FOMO enters the chat.
And FOMO is undefeated.
3. Fall in love with the Qur’an yourself (kids sniff hypocrisy instantly)
This one’s uncomfortable, but necessary.
If Qur’an only appears when they are told to recite, they’ll associate it with pressure.
But if Qur’an lives in the house, you reciting, you reading, you listening, it becomes part of the environment.
Kids don’t follow instructions.
They follow vibes.
When they see you drawn to the Qur’an without being forced, curiosity grows. Slowly. Naturally. No lecture required.
if you found this newsletter interesting, i’m teaching a full seminar for parents of kids aged 0-6, on how to discipline your kids so they listen to you and behave without you losing your mind.
You can find info about that here.